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Pieces Of Cake

May 8th 2006 14:41

Love is a beautiful thing. And I see no reason why the act of making love shouldn’t be similarly beautiful. Sex tends to be all about passion, frequently blind passion, so I hadn’t previously taken the time to consider an aesthetic dimension at all.. but Taffy and Mr. X were so beautiful together, and when we all curled up to sleep afterward I felt incredibly warm and happy and loved snuggled between two of my favourite people in the world.

And in my happy naiveté I thought this state of perpetual bliss could continue indefinitely. But cracks were already showing. There was a moment when Mr. X and I leaned across her and kissed that Taffy seriously contemplated physical violence. Jealousy, possessiveness and insecurity were slithering like serpents into my paradise.

And I really didn’t want to confront any questions of good and evil. Was it ok to still have an overwhelming physical attraction to Mr. X? How would this threaten my blossoming relationship with Taffy?

And in the complicated arena of sexual politics, what does it really mean to be bisexual? When they were both undressing I had a sudden moment of clarity and unwarily announced that I’d settled the question! I really did like both boys and girls. (And didn’t see why I should do without either.) Of course this provoked an uneasy reaction. Taffy said that she liked me, and Mr. X attempted to break the ice by announcing that he liked nipples.

I started to wonder whether I really would be allowed to have my cake and eat it too.

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The Green-Eyed Monster

May 4th 2006 14:28

A few days ago, someone asked me about jealousy- is it hard to avoid when there's three in the bed?

Sexual jealousy isn't something I really experience. If the people I care about are happy, I'm happy too. This, however, makes me an exception to the rule- either angelic or psychotic.

The biggest obstacle to creating successful and satisfying open relationships is jealousy. Despite how enlightened we think we are, most of us experience jealousy if our spouse or lover has a sexual relationship with someone else. A few rare individuals never experience jealousy. They are either more highly evolved than the rest of us mortals, or else they are pathologically out of touch with their feelings. - Kathy Labriola

You can make up your own minds about my mental health.

But knowing Taffy didn't feel at all the same way I knew I had to be very careful...

I was willing, Mr. X was willing, but our menage a trois depended entirely on Taffy overcoming her natural aversion to my ex and being seduced..

And so with careful little steps I'd led her into his arms, his bedroom and now his bed..

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The Complex Knot of Love

May 3rd 2006 09:52

I have to admit, my initial expectations may have been a teeny bit excessive. It all just seemed so simple! I liked her, she liked me, I liked him, he liked me, and I was going to get to be the scrumptious filling in a yummy Taffy/Mr.X sandwich. Me, being laved and loved and lavished attention upon.

But for most of us, sex can never be completely detached from emotion- not should it be. And it struck home while we stood there in nervous silence.
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Snuggle up with Pride

April 20th 2006 23:30

We strolled down to my place from South like a walking polyamory pride flag- at least, that’s what someone commented. You may remember the term from Lacking Love? I prefer vocabularian Amy's new word polyamorousauruses!

I do plan to discuss this lifestyle in greater depth, but in the meantime to check out the flag click here. It’s quite an ugly flag, I know, so rest assured that we looked much prettier. I personally prefer the bisexual pride flag and biangles. If I have to identify as something, it might as well be a little purple triangle.
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The Lesbian Look

April 5th 2006 03:18

The second weekend my girlfriend came down from Newcastle being a momentous occasion, I wore a miniskirt. And high heels- some of you may know the kind, so uncomfortable you never wear them anywhere, but you can never pack them away because they make you look so good.

Thanks to trackwork delay I spent a pleasant hour at Central Station people-watching, and was forced to realise that I’m getting this whole lesbian-chic thing all wrong. First the guys were checking out my legs and girls were checking out my shoes. Then I saw a –real- lesbian couple and understood the problem. Permitting quantities of hair to grow on my legs would be a good way to discourage second glances. And I should put on much more weight, wear tight-fitting black and/or khaki, smear eyeliner around my eyes and chop off the hair (on my head).
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Lacking Love?

April 3rd 2006 01:14

My friends today were complaining about lack of love. I do feel lots of sympathy for them, but I find it a little hard to relate. I don't often suffer from a lack of love, in fact I'm struggling with a surplus.

The new term for this sort of thing seems to be 'polyamorous'. Not that it's a brilliant descriptor. But it's what I see slowly forming on people's lips (paranoid) when I stroll down the street arm in arm with my ex-(but still around)boyfriend and my very pretty but semi-long-distance semi-closeted girlfriend.
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Oxford Nights 101

April 3rd 2006 00:50

.. Or, The Pros and Cons of Lipstick Bisexualism.

Potentially first serious girlfriend arrives from Newcastle on train. She’s wearing pink mini skirt and silky top, impractical high heels. Very cute, very feminine, very actually quite gorgeous. So far it’s all good. After obligatory deep and meaningful discussion (afternoon caffeine/sugar fix stretches on until Gloria Jeans staff threaten to start charging us rent) we browse through King St shops looking for sparkly things to wear out. Pro: Girlfriend can offer good advice on the best low-cut tops. Con: Over-excited salesgirls gush over her outfit and blatantly flirt.
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